A client spent nearly $500,000 over 25 years chasing weight loss. She worked with celebrity trainers, tried countless pills, bought all fancy equipments, and followed every diet imaginable.
By the time we met, she was disheartened and exhausted because:
- She was emotionally consumed by preventing the lost 40 pounds from coming back…yet it still came back;
- She couldn’t live a normal life. She spent 3-5 hours per day overthinking food, it was very burdening.
She came onto our inital call with the question: “Is it what it is?” It was very depressing.
If you struggle with the same two issues, I’ll give you an answer which, if you take it to heart, will flip the reality.
I’m not joking.
Think about it: to a lot of people — it could be your friend, family member, neighbor, kid’s friend’s mom, business partner, colleague, etc. — gaining weight is actually harder than maintaining it.
If you’re following a weight loss program but haven’t addressed the following three key patterns, you’re heading in the wrong direction. Trying to rely on willpower alone is like running against the flow on a speeding train—you might be moving, but you’re still going the wrong way. You can run fast, but you are still on that train taking you to the wrong place.
Three Patterns Preventing You From Losing Weight
Pattern #1. Is your body driving you to eat the wrong amount of the wrong food constantly?
Many people can’t even sense fullness and hunger accurately due to years of self-deprivation. When they feel full, they are actually overstuffed without realizing it. They always feel hungry, crave the greasy, salty, and sugary, and they’ve developed the muscle memory to finish everything blindly.
This biological and sensory programming will dictate your weight.
#2. Is your mind making you self-sabotage using food?
If your emotion controls your eating, you are a victim of circumstance. The association between emotion and eating will make you overeat every time. Again, it means you are emotionally wired to self-sabotage using food.
#3. Do you have a dieter’s identity that pulls you into the dieter’s reality — the full cycle of deprivation, frustration, and failures?
A major character of the dieter’s reality is the lack of trust in your body. Ask yourself: from 1 to 10 with 10 being the most, how much do you think you can trust your body without second guessing every single food choice?
These three patterns above already define where you are heading from the physical, emotional, and identity levels. This client, although she had spent half a million dollars, never fixed these.
In fact no one told her these were the real problem.
Every personal trainer she worked with stressed on being better at mechanically controlling herself without teaching her the real self-control is actually facilitated by enabling the inner mechanism to do so.
She had gained a PhD in dieting, mistakenly thinking self-deprivation meant strength…until she realized that she was fighting a war that she could never win.
Here’s the truth:
You can’t win the war against your biology. You can’t out-win your brain either because it’s the ultimate boss. Facing neural pathways that govern you top down inside out, willpower is negligible.
Until you can change how you are wired on that deeper level, no real changes happen.
And once you’ve successfully done it, you’ll find exactly what I said to be true:
It’s harder to gain weight than maintaining and losing weight. You are already on a different train, it’ll take you there even if you do nothing. And I’m saying this as someone who have personally coached at least 350 people shed 1,2000+ pounds lastingly and, for the lack of a better word, automatically.
To Your happiness,
Leslie chen
P.S. I know it sounds too good to be true when I said ‘automatic weight loss with food freedom.’ Truth be told, this is the phenomena I see every day among my clients, and here are just a few examples among many:
- Valarie getting liberated from 27 years of binging.
- Jennifer dropping 21 pounds in 10 weeks despite vacations and eating out often.
- Janina finding amazing results weekly which happen effortlessly.
- Amy ends 10 years of food addiction and weight struggles
- Erica building her empire while automatically slimming down.
- Amanda is going to her high school reunion and feeling confident for the first time in 10 years.
- Terri finding real, lasting results after stop dieting and binge-watching nutrition textbooks
- Kerri breaking free from 15 years of food addiction and weight struggle.
I’ve personally coached 350+ high-performers lastingly and automatically shed 12,000+ pounds, collectively, by the time of writing. If you’re interested in hearing more success stories and learning about the methodology I use to help people achieve these results, I’ve shared everything here.
